One Goal, Three Fears #trust30 Challenge Day 29

I accepted a blogging challenge called #Trust30 in honor of the republishing of Ralph Waldo Emerson’s book Self-Reliance. Essentially over the next 30 days I will be given snippets of thoughts from which I must create something. In my case that something will be written works.

Today’s challenge is as follows:

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Write down a major life goal you have yet to achieve or even begin to take action on. For each goal, write down three uncertainties (read: fears) you have relating to each goal. Break it down further, and write down three reasons for each uncertainty. When you have three reasons for your fear, you’ll be able to start processing the change because you know where the fear stems from. Now you’ll be able to make a smaller changes that push you towards your larger goal. So begins the process of “trusting yourself.”

(Author: Sean Ogle)

Hey, guys! Guess what!? I have life goals and dreams and stuff that I’ve never bothered pursuing because of FEAR. I know this is a huge revelation since well, I’ve only discussed this six or seven other times in this challenge.

GOAL

A long-term meaningful relationship with a supportive yet challenging partner who is as into me as I am into her.

FEARS

1. That person doesn’t exist or I’m too introverted to find her

a. I’m 40 and haven’t found her yet.
b. Concerted efforts have only turned up more ‘great friends’ but no love connections.
c. I don’t know how to take casual hanging out to something more.

2. I’ll settle for someone I’m not that into out of fear of being alone.

a. I feel those moments of desperation that shout in my ear that maybe I’m being too picky.
b. There are so many things in life I want to share with someone.
c. Even pessimistic misanthropic introverts crave human touch.

3. I’ll end up with someone that I’m head-over-heels with who has just settled for me.

a. Been there, done that before, history repeats itself.
b. Everyone has moments of desperation.
c. I tend to fall for women who have an air of unavailability about them.